sons suicidal and school call cps

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nhm
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Hi everyone, its been a while.. Hope everyone is doing well. Heres the story.My oldest son who has asbergers told a counsler at school that he was having suicidal thoughts. She in turn called Department of human services and reported it. It took DHS 6 days to show up at my home! Heres my beef. If you want to call DHS to be on the safe side, fine. BUT SHE SHOULD HAVE NOTIFIED ME SO I COULD KEEPN WATCH OVER HIM AND SEEK COUNSELING!!! IN THE ^ DAYS IT TOOK DHS TO SHOW UP AND INFORM ME HE COULD HAVE ALREADY HURT HIMSELF OR WORSE!!! The day I found out I put him in counseling immediately. The house had 2 leaks which were fixed immediately. Yet DHS still decided I need comprehensive home based services! I will have a worker in my home once a week for 9 months! Ive done everything that they wanted done so why wont they get out of my life? Ive NEVER abused or negleted my kids, they have clean nice clothes to wear, and I fix them well rounded meals each night and cook them breakfastt in the morning.I am a good mom! So yes i am irritated that i have to  dealll with dhs in my home for 9months,but im furious the counsler didnt warn me my son was suicidal.Something could have hapened to him in those 6 days and i wouldve had to kill the counsler! so my question is this:do i have grounds to complain or write a grievence and if so to who? I think she was very irresponsible and put my sons life at risk!

Anyway thank you pharmers in advance and i dont know what i did to the font or how to fix it so im sorrrrry! Ive missed everyone feels good to be back.

love,melinda

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contacting your local Dept. of Education and your School Board and School Superintendent. Also, I don't know how big a town you are in but a letter to the editor in small town newspapers works wonders. Most towns have websites too, where you can post your rightful grievance. That is sooo fouled up it's got me shaking mad! What was that counselor thinking? I have no idea of what a high school counselor is supposed to do but back in the day, 1971, my counselor almost made it so that I couldn't get into the State University. I was a National Merit Scholarship winner, graduated 1st in my class, the works but he thought I was a smart a s s and didn't file any of my applications because I was allowed to skip my senior year. He thought I was too big for my britches and it looks like this councelor has the same problem. Is your son extremely bored with school? With Asberger's I would imagine so. This counselor probably put him in the smart a s s group and treated him like he was dirt just because your son is probably 50 points smarter than he is on the I.Q. scale. Please, scream at the school Super and see if you can get your son advanced placement. I srarted University at age 16, it didn't hurt me any and it sure was good to get out of a place where I was smarter than the teachers. Smart kids DO get PUNISHED for being smart. I was one of them . . . Q

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Melinda,

Yes, you have a right to complain.  You should have been notified by the school counselor.  You should write a note to her supervisor, stating that she called CPS because your son was having suicidal ideations, but YOU WERE NOT CONTACTED.  That should have been the next thing she did:  call CPS, then call you.  In fact, she should have called you first, so that you could arrange counseling, and thus CPS would not even need to be in the picture.  It really was inappropriate for her to call CPS, without called you first.  The child's parents should always be contacted first.

As to DHS, you nned to find out who the administrator of that division is, then write a letter to him/her, stating that CPS was brought into the situation by a school counselor, without your knowledge, and that it took SIX days for them to actually come and evaluate the situation.  That is totally inadequate.  If DHS is going to provide services to prevent a suicidal event, they need to be able to intervene in a timely manner.  SIX days is NOT a timely manner in any way.

Also, as soon as you were notified of the sucidal ideation, you placed your son in counseling.  Ask why you have to have a DHS worker in your home, when you have done everything correctly and in a timely manner.

Hope your son is doing well.

cgm

 

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i work in a school district in tx...policy states to call CPS...and then you can call the parents...if the counselor did anything wrong...it was not notifying the family...however depending on the circumstances of the household situation the "victim" was describing/verbalizing...alot of times its better not to call the family...etc...child is abused at home...call CPS then call the mom and dad that are beating their kids at home?? good idea or bad?... no judgement nhm...just stating facts.

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Thanks for bringing up the other possibilities. What do you think about a policy change wherein the Counsellor makes immediate appt. with parent/s after calling CPS. Pardon my bias against school counsellors, I admit it, but in the days of Newtown and Columbine those guys should be placing themselves on the frontline not in the teacher's lounge eating donuts. Harsh words, yes, but think about their job title . . . counsellor. Adolescents need counselling more than they are currently providing . . . Q

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i can agree that some and maybe most councelors just sit on there arse and don't do much other than a TON of paper work... however when a serious situation comes up about having to call CPS or even PD...they pretty much have a process they follow to keep them from getting into trouble as far as keeping their jobs are concerned...so you may not like being informed about your child's business exactly right when its happening...but i know they will follow their process to the T and get a slap on the wrist than risk loosing their job completely.  I think most can empathize with that rationale. Now about making an appointment and all...they typically wait until CPS tells them what the end result is...(without giving too much information away.) and they the councelors will go from there.

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Thanks everyone for the

Thanks everyone for the advice. Its gotten worse, but thats a story for another day.